RELATIONSHIPS
How To Know Your Relationship Is Going Too Fast
It’s something that can be easily missed, especially if you’re too busy riding the high of a relationship.
Moving too fast will have many drawbacks. And you won’t even notice anything until later when problems arise and you realize that you aren’t fully equipped for it.
Before that happens, here are the signs that you and your partner are, in fact, moving a little too fast in your relationship.
1. You’re not over your recent breakup.
If you’re trying to compensate for your breakup by trying your hardest in your current relationship, then, yes, you’re probably moving way too fast.
This is common for those who are using rebounds to get over an ex. It doesn’t matter if your ex was a toxic person or not. You should know that this kind of pain takes time to heal. And jumping straight into a new relationship will be your downfall.
If this is the case, you are better off on your own until you’ve fully moved on. Until you can say your ex’s name without feeling anything, you should take the time to heal yourself first.
2. Your partner is “perfect.”
Some people get too moony-eyed at the start of relationships, which makes way for them to make mistakes. In this case, if you’re fully convinced that your current lover is perfect before you even get to know them better, then know that you’re in way over your head.
At least get to know them first and see how everything goes. Long-term relationships are supposed to start off rocky. If your current relationship is perfect right from the start, don’t you think that’s suspicious?
3. Outrageously sweet gestures right from the get-go
Again, this falls into the category of overcompensating for a previous relationship. Whether it’s you or your partner, constantly laying on romantic gestures a little too thick is a red flag. It also shows that the person can quickly say sweet things without batting an eye.
That’s another red flag. This is someone who is hiding a toxic behavior. It can also mean that this person is far from genuine. Don’t trust someone that can compliment you and be sweet at the drop of a hat. That type of behavior is either a defense mechanism or a manipulative tactic.
4. Avoiding serious talks
It’s probably your fear of ruining a good run. You’re so scared to mess things up that you don’t want to ruin it by talking about serious things.
The thing is, how are you going to move on to the next step if you keep on side-stepping the important conversations? You should at least acknowledge the label of your relationship before going further.
Real relationships take time to strengthen.
If a relationship is going too fast, then it’s going to crash and burn really fast too. Good things in life take time to strengthen. If you want to make your relationship a long-term one, you need to take it slow.
Let the affection grow through conflicts. Relationships aren’t meant to be perfect, but letting that imperfection stay and allowing the couple to grow around that is what really makes it long-term.
And it can be your version of perfect.
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