Tips To Keep Your Relationship from Failing

Yasmin Del Rosario
5 min readFeb 15, 2024

Do you think your relationship with your woman is a healthy one? Do you want it to stay that way?

It’s only normal if you do. After all, I doubt anyone wants their romantic relationship to be toxic. Of course all of us would be fighting tooth and nail to make sure we have a normal-functioning one.

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But how does a healthy relationship exactly work?

What makes a healthy relationship?

People come together for many different reasons and it makes every relationship unique. Sharing a common goal for what you want your relationship to be and where you want it to go is part of what makes a healthy relationship. And you’ll only know that if you have a long and honest conversation with your partner.

You don’t need us to tell you how important communication is in a relationship. Healthy relationships are what they are because couples talk to each other. It’s the most basic thing when it comes to being a couple.

Aside from that, there are also some characteristics that most healthy relationships have in common.

  • Maintaining the meaningful emotional connection
  • Unafraid of respectful disagreement
  • Keeping outside interests and relationships alive

What to do to keep your relationship healthy

Everyone is determined to keep and increase their happiness. After all, if you are your lover and have less stress then the other things in your life end up being easy to handle. To an extent, at least.

There are basic ways to make relationships healthy, even though each relationship is different. These tips apply to all kinds of relationships: friendships, work and family relationships, and romantic partnerships.

  • Keep the expectations realistic — Nobody can possibly be what we want them to be. Accepting people for who they are rather than trying to change them is part of a healthy relationship. If you make your partner feel obligated to be a specific way, you’ve created a toxic relationship.
  • You need to fight fair — Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. It only means you disagree about something; it does not have to mean you don’t like each other. Sometimes there is a need for arguments, since it is proof that relationships have things that need to be talked about. If a couple has gone through all their years without a single argument, then it’s suspicious.
  • Learn to give and take — Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by expecting to get what you want 100% of the time. Healthy relationships are built on compromise but it takes work for both parties to make sure the exchange is reasonable. So recognize what’s important for your partner and don’t make “winning” your goal.

Questions you need to ask yourself

If you still think you aren’t doing enough then ask yourself these questions:

  • “Can I really tell her how I feel?”

A successful relationship requires the ability to be open and honest with your partner about your feelings. That can be both positive and negative. And being able to freely agree or disagree on certain things without feeling obligated to impress or please your partner can help you grow as a couple.

So if you have a level of trust with her that allows you to openly talk about the bad and the good without the fear of being judged, you can answer this question with a Yes.

  • “Am I listening to her concerns?”

It’s only fair that you give her the same treatment.

While it is critical to be able to openly share your worries, it is also critical that you listen to her. Communication should always be a two-way street between equals. It should always go both ways. You shouldn’t expect one side to always listen and take in your problems and not do the same thing for her.

  • “Do I hold power in this relationship?”

The truth here is that relationships aren’t about who gets to wear the pants in it. The responsibility should be shared between the couple instead of being carried by just one. Keeping the whole thing equal makes the relationship safe and fair.

None of you should even be trying to overpower one another. This is a relationship, not a competition.

  • “Do I feel safe with her?”

If you’re in a happy relationship, you’ll go out of your way to make your partner feel safe. You must ensure that your behavior and decisions are not perceived as hesitation in your relationship.

If you mistakenly do something that makes your partner feel unsafe, you should apologize and work to remedy the problem.

  • “Do I trust her?”

One of the most important aspects of any relationship is trust. If you and your partner have already committed to each other, there should be little need for you to feel distrustful of each other.

If you continuously feel like she’s lying to you or makes you doubt your own trust, you’re probably in an unhealthy relationship. If that’s the case, you’ll need to talk or rethink and reevaluate your relationship.

You also need to take care of yourself

Remember to consider your own feelings and thoughts. In some relationships, people are prone to prioritizing their partners over themselves. It might be perceived as compassionate and selfless, but when you go too far and ignore your own feelings and needs, it becomes harmful.

Don’t put yourself through that. It will simply complicate the problem. Self-care is the first step toward self-love. At the very least, take care of yourself, even just a little.

There’s always going to be ups and downs

Every relationship has its ups and downs and we all know this. You won’t always agree on everything. Sometimes one of you may be dealing with a stressful situation, such as the death of a close family member and sometimes it could be your yourself that is having problems that you are reluctant to share with anyone

Sometimes one of you may be dealing with a stressful situation, such as the death of a close family member and sometimes it could be your yourself that is having problems that you are reluctant to share with anyone Other circumstances, such as job loss or serious health issues, can have an impact on both couples and make it harder to relate to one another. You may have different ideas about how to manage your finances or even raise your children.

Various people deal with stress in different ways, and miscommunications can quickly escalate into annoyance and fury.

This is why you need to understand that not every relationship is perfect and not every situation can be fixed. But that doesn’t mean you two are a loss cause.

It just means you both are trying your best.