SATISTICS | ONLINE DATING
Men’s Guide to Online Chat with Women
There isn’t a single person in this world with internet access that hasn’t heard of online chatting before.
It’s what’s currently taking the single community by storm. It makes a great platform for people all over the world to reach out to each other. Even if you are in close proximity, you would still be able to make use of it.
Online chatting is also widely used on online dating platforms. The convenience chatting provides to online dating platforms is incomparable. It gets the job done without a hitch.
With many others pulled into this current trend, it’s inevitable for some to stumble backward when enticing this unfamiliar world. One might easily assume that chatting is a piece of cake.
But is it?
The Likeliness of Men Finding Matches and Engaging in Online Conversations
Anyone with online dating experience is well aware that men have a much more difficult time finding matches when compared to women. They have lesser engagements, which only equals having fewer conversations.
Based largely on the data that OkCupid has gathered on its users, it is safe to say that women are particular in their selection of men. Men have a balanced verdict in rating the level of attraction in women, whereas women rate men’s level of attraction poorly.
This rating is most likely to have stemmed from a poor experience in chat.
Attraction is not only based on looks but on how you handle a conversation as well. A man may be conventionally attractive in a woman’s eyes, but a sour personality can easily change that.
The ones that they encounter often send them unsolicited pictures as an opening greeting. This wholly affects their perception of the matches that they encounter on dating platforms in general.
This poses a challenge for genuine men. Even if they have nothing to do with it, they are still affected by this sort of stigma.
To overcome this barrier, you need to be able to present yourself as genuine. At the same time, you have to make yourself enticing.
Presentation Matters
The bitter truth about online dating is that appearances make a huge difference when finding matches.
As shallow as it is, there’s no disputing the fact people judge based on appearance. There are so many conclusions you can come up with just by looking at a photo. If the picture is grainy, then they probably are not into taking photos. If the picture shows a group of people together, then they are probably sociable.
Women take particular care of their appearance. That is why they are a lot more critical of how a man presents himself. If possible, they would like to get matched with a man who knows how to tend after himself, rather than one who needs assistance.
To charm women into engaging in a conversation with you, it’s advisable to secure a good quality photo with proper lighting. Good grooming is also critical when taking these said photos.
It’s the first thing they notice before striking up a conversation. Technically speaking, it’s their first impression of you — so choose wisely.
Making an Interesting Introduction
There’s more to chat introductions than “hi” or “hello”, a fact that not many realize. Chat introductions are essentially a key figure in helping you find a relationship. It has to be interesting enough for your match to keep on with the conversation.
Opening the conversation with a random but funny fact is more likely to elicit an excitable response. A simple “hi”, on the other hand, won’t make you any different from the other users who start the conversation.
Mastering the Art of Conversation
How you carry out a conversation largely depends on the platform you are using. If you are using a dating app, there’s no problem with using chatspeak. Most of the people making use of these services are usually those who are active in social media.
The only dilemma you’ll have when talking to the social media savvy crowd is knowing how to join in the fun. You have to be witty and understand pop culture references.
Matching their energy can be challenging as well. You have to be sure that you can keep up before entering the conversation. You’ll be drained if you bite more than you can chew.
To exit the conversation, you simply have to wait until the conversation dies down. If they do not attempt to contact you afterwards, that would be the end of it. In the same way, if you don’t think you would make a good match, then you can put it all behind you.
Conversations in the virtual world vary wildly from real life. A person can spam you with laughing emojis yet have a deadpan face while typing it.
Whether it’s online dating or personal messages, online conversations tend to be lighthearted. Unless you are familiar with tone indicators, you wouldn’t be able to decipher the sentiments behind these words.
But as a rule of thumb, you have to be cautious of what you say on the internet — chats are no exception.
Getting into the World of Online Dating
The appeal of online dating to today’s singles has pulled many others into giving it a try. According to Statistica 2021, the number of online dating users around the world is estimated to reach 234.1 million.
Approximately 30% of U.S. adults have used online dating services. About 12% of those managed to find success in these said dating services.
This is all thanks to the effort people behind the online dating apps and sites have put together. This is not just a passing fancy that others take up when they’re bored — this involves real-life people who are hoping to find love. You could be one of those people.
