REALITIES
Does Love Come Through Manifestation?
Conversations on manifestations have been flooding online news feeds with its hashtag, garnering millions of views on YouTube and a billion views on TikTok.
Most of these relate to manifesting exes back, a crush reciprocating one’s feelings and the like. The catalyst here is the reposting of audio. Even a clip of Amanda Clayton, a certified life coach, repeating the phrase, “No matter what he is doing, no matter who he is with, he is always thinking of me,” has been used over 190,000 times.
But is it genuinely possible for manifestations to work?
Does the universe actually make your ex realize you are the love of their life once you use the manifestation audio?
Ms. Oettingen, a psychology professor, stated that based on study outcomes, the more people fantasize about getting together with a person, the less likely they are to enter into a romantic relationship a year later. She commended having positive fantasies with a good dose of reality.
Manifesting is a personal journey. The best results come with intentions and actions.
Here is a healthy guide to manifesting the soulmate of your dreams:
1. Understand Your True Intentions
What do you really want in a partner? It comes well recommended that you list down the qualities that you want and ask yourself why. This can help you envision and create a clearer intention. Release past baggage, avoid writing negative statements, and remind yourself of this list every day as it would help you refocus.
2. Believe It Can Happen
Manifestation is a leap of faith. Believing that the life and the partner you want DO exist can help you beat limiting thoughts, and can help you create new patterns and beliefs. The level of trust in yourself is a forceful magnet in this process. Make sure that you embody a positive energy that vibrates with your wishes.
3. Make Affirmations A Habit
Repeating positive affirmations to yourself can cement a healthier self-esteem. Telling yourself, “I am worthy of experiencing love” or “I attract positivity and beauty into my life” can encourage you to surround yourself with things that make you feel good about yourself. Have these affirmations in the present tense, affirming that what you want is already coming.
4. Take Solid Action
Writing down qualities and practicing affirmations is one thing but there also has to be an element of doing. Go out and interact with people that align with your list! This brings you much closer to finding whatever your heart desires.
5. Release Your Attachment To Results
Forget about having a specific time and have patience. Know that love also requires charting waters with patience and perseverance. Keep your optimism and remain open to different possibilities. While you’re still working towards your aspirations, take these moments to reflect on yourself.
While TikTok manifestations make you believe you can get your ideal lover within 72 hours and set you up for disappointment, science doesn’t think so.
Remember: You CAN manifest love. Manifestation just doesn’t happen overnight.
References:
Pitcher, Laura. 2022. “Can Single People ‘Manifest’ a New Partner?” The New York Times.
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/14/style/manifesting-love.html
