DATING
Everything You Should Know about Dry Texting
“A relationship without communication is just two people.”
-Anonymous
It’s a known fact that (other than love and trust) communication is key to making relationships work. Couples who know how to communicate healthily and effectively have higher chances of staying together in the long run.
Being able to talk to your partner freely and openly without fear of judgment is truly a beautiful thing. In a way, it makes your relationship exciting. It is as if every cell in your body is actively regenerating on its own, becoming healthier with each passing second, making you feel a lot younger.
Indeed, relationships are more fun if you know how to communicate well with each other. But how would you feel when your partner seems to have lost interest in talking to you?
The Beginning of Your Doubts
She used to be so enthusiastic. She would even stay up late just so your conversation doesn’t end. Every time you send a message, you would feel her excitement show through her texts.
However, things seemed to have changed. She doesn’t give you the same energetic replies anymore. Her responses are getting shorter with each reply, and it’s become harder for you to continue a decent conversation.
You start to ask yourself, what is going on?
What she’s doing is called dry texting — when a person sends very brief responses that are often boring, repetitive, and in a way, formulated to be less engaging. It’s the ultimate conversation killer, which can take a toll on your relationship in the long run.
How It Can Negatively Affect You
Dealing with a dry texter can be exhausting. There’s a lot of pressure on your part to revive or put life into your stale conversation. Though draining, you still choose to text her anyway because you love the idea of talking to your partner.
On the other hand, it also causes you confusion. Is she still interested in you? Is she going through something? Regardless, you are left behind with endless thoughts, doubts, and questions about her and your relationship as a whole.
Her Dry Messages
Surprisingly, some experts say that it’s hard to differentiate a dry text from a single message. Though it may be unusual for her to give you such brief texts, some messages don’t require meaningful responses either.
Here’s what you should look out for:
- She frequently sends off one-word replies.
- She ignores the photos and links you send.
- She never initiates a conversation, it’s always you who does.
- She leaves your messages on seen.
- She always seems to be uninterested in your conversation.
- She’s unengaging and never asks you follow-up questions.
For a clearer grasp, below are examples of dry text:
- Yeah.
- Okay.
- Haha.
- Lol.
- LMAO
- Nah.
- Mmm.
- You?
- That’s cool.
- Wow.
- Really?
- Thanks.
- Great.
Although most of these responses are pretty much common in daily conversations, you’ll know it’s dry texting because she doesn’t have any follow-up messages after it.
Take note that dry texting is repetitive. If she sends you these short answers multiple times in a row, take it as a warning sign that she’s drifting apart from you.
How to Avoid Being Dry Texted
If you think not texting her at all is a way to avoid dry texting from happening, you’re definitely wrong. Don’t wave defeat if you haven’t even fought the battle yet.
To avoid being dry texted, here’s what you can do:
- When dry texting is palpable, the first thing you must do is figure out why it’s happening. You should be able to identify the root cause of the problem before being able to give solutions and carry out a plan to counter it.
- It’s also helpful to know her communication style. Before you make assumptions that she’s a dry texter, determine how she prefers having conversations with you. Keep in mind that texting isn’t your only option. You can either call each other or meet up when you can.
- Don’t brush off the possibility that you may have said or done something to offend her. For some women, it’s considered a turn-off when a man is oblivious of his actions. If you think you’re responsible for why she’s acting this way, talk to her about it and apologize.
- Sometimes, women get less and less interested in talking to men who can’t engage in meaningful conversations. For a good impression and lasting conversations, ask thought-provoking questions or talk about topics that can pique her interest.
- Make sure you’re not a dry texter yourself. As mentioned, women will not waste their time talking to men who can’t have proper conversations with them. If you are a dry texter, it’s possible she’s only mirroring your way of communicating. So back read your messages and see how you reply. You might find the problem.
- There’s a fine line between trying not to be a dry texter and texting too much, neither of the two is ideal. Think about your responses carefully before hitting the send button. Don’t send paragraphs or essays, as this will cause you to run out of what to say.
Knowing When to Stop
Dating and relationships require a lot of work, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be fun. You can still enjoy your relationship while being mindful of your communication.
If you find yourself staring at your bedroom ceiling in the middle of the night, thinking about what went wrong every time you text her, then it may be wise to reconsider your relationship.
Poor communication shouldn’t be ignored. You’re only setting yourself up for future heartbreak.
So stop when your conversation feels like work. If your partner makes you feel unwanted, act like how mature men do. Acknowledge what you lack, if there are any, and cut off ties with her in a proper way.
There’s no use in staying in a relationship where you feel alone. If you feel this way, it’s time to move on to greener pastures.
Finding the Right Love
Your partner has to accept you for you.
This is what love is all about and how it should be. Dating is a way to know whether you’re compatible with someone or not, and it includes a lot of trial and error. It’s not a walk in the park, but the setbacks you’ll face are merely temporary, and though you may not believe it, it brings you closer to the right one for you.
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